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How To Pick Up Girls

StephenNash — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 12:15:56 CST

How To Pick Up Girls

Want to know the Truth?

Most guys won’t approach a woman. They are too scared. It is more frightening than hiking up Mt. Everest, or speaking in front of the White House Press Corps.

So, if you want real choice and power with your dating life, you’re going to have to join the minority. That’s right – you are going to have to seize the opportunities when they come your way and push through your fear and learn...

How To Pick Up Girls!

Any guy can do it. This is not rocket science, or dismantling a land mine here. In fact, most women will give you the benefit of the doubt just for having the cajones to approach her – cool?

Assuming you can get past your own fear (subtle challenge), here are some MUSTS for making your approach smooth. The idea is to make the process as comfortable for you and her as possible.

If you strike out, chalk it up as a “learning experience.”

Think about how you can make the next one better, got it?

Let’s accelerate your learning curve and go over 3 elements for making your next approach look as natural as a sunrise.

1) Casual: Looks much easier written down than when staring at the next Mrs. YOU. But, if you come on too strong to her at first, she’s going to get frightened and defend herself. To start the conversation, be as casual as possible by asking her a simple question about your environment. Also, keep your body language as neutral as possible by not turning and facing her or leaning in to her. She is much more likely to receive your approach if you can prevent the words “something is up here, I can just feel it!!” from crossing her mind. Feel free to also look away as you chat with her. Again, you are reinforcing the casual-ness of the interaction.

2) Playful: Lots of guys become Mr. Cocky when they approach women, which is a defense mechanism. Drop the cockiness, and show her your confident side by being playful. This is also called – FLIRTING – and is a MUST skill for guys who want to enhance their dating lives. You want to simply joke around, but stay away from teasing her – you don’t know her well enough for that yet. Instead, point out the humor in your surroundings, or, even better, about yourself. The more self-effacing here the better. Let her know you don’t take yourself too seriously. If you can master this, women will trust you. If women trust you, they will want to be around you. See where this leads?

3) Personal: Last, but not least, at some point you have to let her know a little bit about you. Instead of relying on the standard diet of questions (“where are you from?”, “what is your sign?”), answer these questions for her in the form of statements. Just drop them into your conversation: “Your sweater reminds me of my sister, though we are from the south, it gets cold around November. She used to wear something similar at Thanksgiving.” In that statement alone, I reveal three facts about my life: I am from the south, I have a sister, and we gather at Thanksgiving. Suddenly, you are no longer a guy she just met at the café, but someone she is “getting to know”. There is a HUGE difference.

So, now that you have the basic three ideas in mind, you now have to LEARN them. Here is your mission:

Do one approach per day for the next week, and play around with these ideas. Try to take some notes after each approach, and learn where your sticking points are. Feel free to contact me via this wetpaint page with any questions etc.

I love hearing from guys who are really trying to improve this area of their lives. I think it is so important, I started this business to help spread the word about how to be successful without trying to completely change who you are.

The biggest sticking point that most guys have is an unwillingness to seek HELP for their challenges.

That's why it's important that you contact me...OR, grab my newest dating and "pick-up" training program:

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This 8+ hour audio program, WITH ebook, will teach you my system for naturally, effortlessly meeting women without ever coming across as some weird "pick-up" guy. These skills work in your social circle, on the streets, in front of your friends, in cafes, lounges etc.

Anyway, thanks a ton for checking out my wetpaint page here! Feel free to sign-on and post your own notes about dating, pick-up and relationships - I'll be glad to have you here!

Thanks!

Stephen Nash

About Stephen Nash

StephenNash — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 10:55:22 CST

Stephen Nash

After leaving Project Hollywood in August of 2004, kissing "The Game" goodbye, Stephen Nash decided to harness and hone his skills into a more natural, holistic style of meeting, attracting & dating women which could serve a larger population, not just those interested in becoming pick-up artists.

Along with Michael Cross, Stephen co-founded Cutting Edge Image Consulting to offer men a more natural solution to their dating challenges leading into lasting, healthy relationships with women.

Stephen has been interviewed by Clifford who runs the famous on-line seduction log "Cliff’s List", David DeAngelo, for his "Double Your Dating: Interviews with Dating Gurus" monthly CD series, Neil Strauss for his "Stylelife Interview Series", Thundercat for his seduction lair, has appeared on Pickup Podcast and as well by countless other publications and blogs.

Stephen has worked with over thousands of clients, and is the author of the best-selling How To Get a Girlfriend.

He is also known as "Playboy" from "The Game" by Neil Strauss.

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StephenNash — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 10:49:24 CST

How to Get a Girlfriend - The 4 Steps
by Stephen Nash

My goal in working with men just like you is to help you learn how to get a girlfriend, and a hot girlfriend at that. No one should “settle” for what is just available (in fact, I wrote ebook, which is the ultimate how to get a girlfriend guide).

This format for how to get a girlfriend in high school AND for how to get a girlfriend online, but with some modifications. I think you'll find this most useful though for meeting the "right" special girl in real life.

Here are the four steps that you need to take to meet a woman; not only an attractive woman, but a woman who is right for you so that she becomes your girlfriend.

These four steps will help you get a girlfriend at 13 or 53. It’s kind of an art, as you will see.

STEP #1

Step number one seems pretty obvious, but it’s really important. Get A Life!

Stop surfing the Internet. Stop reading articles like this every single day. Stop looking at the internet, or playing video games, or watching endless hours of “South Park” (my personal favorite TV show by the way). Get out into the world and start doing things.

Ask yourself this question, “How many people do you know who you can honestly say are really interesting people?” They are doing things that are different than other people. They are what I like to refer as individuals. Does that describe you??

I’m being a little snobbish and arrogant here, because I want to inspire you. In fact, I want to piss you off.

You need to get a life. If you’re a guy who sucks with women, you’re probably not very happy or interesting.

You’re probably not really living the life you feel you should be living. A happy man is a man who lives in harmony with his nature (my short definition).

If you want to get a girlfriend, you need to get a life FIRST. So, get out into the world and do the things you’ve always wanted to do! OK?

If you don’t have a lot of money, be creative. Be imaginative. Be active. Get a life. Do cool, fun, interesting, adventurous things. I refuse to believe that those are not available to you right now. As soon as you finish reading this article, you can leave your house and do something interesting.

STEP #2

Step number two in how to get a girlfriends is to get some social skills. This actually happens as a result of being a socialized human being. Guys who are kind of private, insulated, and introverted tend to struggle with this.

Guess what? I’m an introvert. Typically men who need to learn social skills, don’t have them naturally, are kind of introverted and unsocialized.

If you get a life, (remember, that’s step #1), suddenly you will be around people and you’ll see that social skills are essential to learn to help you with things like approaching women.

When it comes down to how to get a girlfriend, approaching a woman is something you need to learn how to do. In fact, I would call it a rite of passage. Regardless of whether or not you meet the woman of your dreams through a cold approach (and I’m here to tell you that probably won’t), you need to learn to do a cold approach.

This is an experience that every man needs: to, on a certain day, see a woman and approach her, talk to her, and get her phone number. Every guy needs to have the experience of going from not knowing a woman to knowing her. It’s very powerful, and it changes your reality. It helps you know that you can go after the things you want in life, not only women, but everything.

So get some social skills. Learn how to approach women. Learn how to flirt. Learn how to escalate. Learn how to get a date. Learn how to date. There is an art to that. It’s not just dinner and a movie. Social skills are important.

Guys like me teach it. There are plenty of us coaches out there. I personally think I’m excellent at it. I know a number of others that are good at it too.

But again, get some social skills. That’s step #2.

STEP #3

Step number three is to get a social life. The nice thing that happens when you get a life and you get social skills is that you can merge these together into what I would call a healthy, balanced social life.

Things like: being the leader of your social circle & doing interesting things are pretty important.

Becoming the “go 2 guy” in your social circle - which means you’re out there in the community and you know what’s happening. You know what’s fun and adventurous. You know what’s just opening or what’s gotten the great reviews. Or, you know the kind of quiet, low key hidden places that no one else knows about and you lead your social circle in and through these adventurous experiences.

Suddenly, you become the “it” guy, the “cool” guy. People want to go and be with you and do the things that you’re doing.

This is again something that I had to undertake after Project Hollywood (you read “The Game” right? Yeah, that was me man…). Once that dissolved, I realized that “sarging” (aka, going out for the sole purpose of picking-up girls) wasn’t the end-all be-all to attracting women into my life.

I had to get out into the world and get a real social life. This means making friends and bringing those friends along with you on the particular outings you’re going on and making them fun and adventurous.

In other words: start doing the things you want to do and meet the other people who are there doing it with you.

It aint rocket science man.

Leave your house right now (well, as soon as you finish this article). Start doing all the things you want to do. And, meet the other people who are there doing it with you. This is how to get a social life.

STEP #4

Step number four might seem counter-intuitive, but that’s exactly why it’s the hardest one.

Step number four is to stop trying!

Step number one, you get a life. It becomes a natural way of life for you. Your lifestyle is fulfilling. It’s interesting. It’s adventurous. You’re out there doing it and living it on a regular basis.

Step umber two, you get some social skills. You don’t have to become Mystery, me, TylerDurden or Neil Strauss. You don’t need to become an expert pick-up artist or an expert at socializing. It makes people weird. Just get decent at meeting and attracting women. You don’t have to be great.

Once you get a social life, and you’re meeting women naturally and on a regular basis, THEN you stop trying.

Wanna know “the secret”? No, I’m not talking about the tacky movie that came out a couple years ago.

The secret is that in order to get a girlfriend, you have to not be trying to get a girlfriend. Relationships happen when you’re not looking. It happened to me that way and it happens to most people that way.

It’s rare that a guy sees a girl across the street, approaches her, gets her number, takes her out on a date and they fall in love and live happily ever after. Usually, there’s a little more art to it than that. The art is in how you live your life.

This is step number four because it’s the highest level, the level of not-doing (ever read Zen??).

For a while, you’re going to have to try and try hard. You’re going to have to put a lot of energy into this and lean into your comfort zone on a regular basis. At a certain point, once you reach a level of aptitude, (not mastery, just aptitude) - stop trying.

Stop thinking about it! Stop reading websites about it (yes, this means YOU man). Get out into the world and make this a part of how you live on a daily basis. The right woman will come along when you least expect it.

My name is Stephen Nash and if this content interests you, visit my websites:

How To Get A Girlfriend
The Natural Art of the Pick-Up

Last, if you'd like to watch me discuss these steps, check out my related video on YouTube here:

How To Get A Girlfriend Video

Thanks for your time!

Stephen Nash